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by Roy
13 Dec 2018, 10:15
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Elder Holland Talk on Reconciliation
Replies: 22
Views: 363

Re: Elder Holland Talk on Reconciliation

I am trying to think about what a talk would sound like that had the opposite message from this. Would it be one about church abuse symptoms and how to avoid them? Would it be a talk about being my brother's keeper and ministering to their needs? Would it contain the following scripture? "But whoso ...
by Roy
13 Dec 2018, 09:55
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: I was almost a school shooter
Replies: 8
Views: 187

Re: I was almost a school shooter

SamBee wrote:
13 Dec 2018, 03:45
The key point here is "othering". If you are bullied, you are alienated from various people. If you are socially excluded, all the other people become an other and you appear less human to them, and vice versa.
Yes, I agree.
by Roy
12 Dec 2018, 08:49
Forum: Support
Topic: Ward treating us like we're inactive?
Replies: 24
Views: 358

Re: Ward treating us like we're inactive?

Our interactions with people at church often follow a pattern where the interaction only exists to ensure the person is complying with those expectations. Yeah, the phrase "We missed you at church on Sunday" can be used and interpreted as a veiled criticism. Even if the speaker is sincere, there ar...
by Roy
12 Dec 2018, 08:24
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: I was almost a school shooter
Replies: 8
Views: 187

Re: I was almost a school shooter

I was bullied. I remember urinating on all the urinal handles in my school bathroom. For a moment I thought, "what if the next person to come in here has not been mean to me?" I stuffed that thought down by rationalizing that even if they hadn't been mean, they hadn't been nice either. They were all...
by Roy
11 Dec 2018, 15:04
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Anger, Rage, and Revenge seeking
Replies: 5
Views: 117

Anger, Rage, and Revenge seeking

I found the recent article from The Atlantic very interesting: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2019/01/charles-duhigg-american-anger/576424/?utm_content=edit-promo&utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=social&utm_term=2018-12-11T14%3A24%3A45&utm_campaign=the-atlantic Many interesting concepts r...
by Roy
10 Dec 2018, 13:42
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Service vs. free labor
Replies: 21
Views: 1222

Re: Service vs. free labor

For me I 1) try to understand what service I can come to expect from church members, 2) ask for it, 3) Try to make it as painless as possible on the members that show up and 4) show gratitude. I know that the church usually helps with moves. I will ask for help loading the moving van. I will have ev...
by Roy
10 Dec 2018, 13:31
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Elder Holland Talk on Reconciliation
Replies: 22
Views: 363

Re: Elder Holland Talk on Reconciliation

As I wrote in the thread about "continuing restoration", I am hopeful that the church will on day get to the point of being able to classify certain historical issues as errors that we admit were mistakes and that we put off the table to ever return to again (even if we were sitting at the head of a...
by Roy
10 Dec 2018, 13:20
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Gospel Doctrine Duscussion about Slut Shaming
Replies: 3
Views: 130

Re: Gospel Doctrine Duscussion about Slut Shaming

I would like to know more. How do Daniel and Esther relate to slut shaming?
by Roy
10 Dec 2018, 13:17
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Bill Reel about to get excommunicated? >:-(
Replies: 76
Views: 4068

Re: Bill Reel about to get excommunicated? >:-(

This is a great discussion. The only thing I would like to bring up is...let's say one of us in this forum either ends up working for the leadership in Salt Lake City or gets a calling which allows any of us to be around the prophets and apostles and whoever finds out there is a good amount of corr...
by Roy
10 Dec 2018, 13:11
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Bill Reel about to get excommunicated? >:-(
Replies: 76
Views: 4068

Re: Bill Reel about to get excommunicated? >:-(

I agree that I am of two minds on the issue of the NDA. On one hand - I have been told by a bishop that I have covenanted my lifelong loyalty to this church and that should not change if I have any integrity. The idea that I make lifelong binding commitments starting at the age of 8 years old seems ...