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by Roy
23 May 2018, 11:29
Forum: Support
Topic: Feeling Traumatized at Church?
Replies: 12
Views: 155

Re: Feeling Traumatized at Church?

I had a traumatic experience in the stillbirth of our third child. That is in no way the fault of the church. I did however have an unrealistic expectation of living a semi-charmed life based in part on LDS teachings. I liken this to being told that a particular road was completely safe for worthy c...
by Roy
23 May 2018, 08:43
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: How do you measure success in "ministering"
Replies: 19
Views: 316

Re: How do you measure success in "ministering"

When did home teaching first start anyway? From what I have read it started in the Mormon Reformation period of 1856-7. "Reformation" here means that the saints were asked to reform their own lives to better follow the gospel. In my mind, The LDS church during those few years went through a sort of...
by Roy
22 May 2018, 15:43
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Kirby nails another one - Mormon merit badges
Replies: 18
Views: 265

Re: Kirby nails another one - Mormon merit badges

The LDS church believes in being judged according to our works. The following is found in the preface to D&C 76: It appeared self-evident from what truths were left, that if God rewarded every one according to the deeds done in the body the term ‘Heaven,’ as intended for the Saints’ eternal home, mu...
by Roy
20 May 2018, 11:31
Forum: Support
Topic: Is it worth it raising daughters in the church?
Replies: 36
Views: 1126

Re: Is it worth it raising daughters in the church?

But it has been my experience that a person can have decision making power without being the one making the money. Right now I choose to stay home with my young children, but my husband and I both very much think of the money he makes as "our money" and we both control it equally. I think a lot dep...
by Roy
20 May 2018, 09:45
Forum: History and Doctrine Discussions
Topic: Scientology - What makes a religion evil, dangerous, or a cult?
Replies: 9
Views: 218

Re: Scientology - What makes a religion evil, dangerous, or a cult?

I do not feel that I know enough about scientology to comment.

I understand that one of the hallmarks of cults is to try to isolate you from non-cult support structures of family and friends.
by Roy
17 May 2018, 16:34
Forum: Support
Topic: Well, there went that plan.
Replies: 9
Views: 232

Re: Well, there went that plan.

I would contact the bishop right away to let him know that you are having panic attacks and are really sorry but just cannot fulfill that calling. If you can do so before it is announced there may be minimal negative consequences. In my home we have a rule never to agree to anything the same day tha...
by Roy
17 May 2018, 16:22
Forum: Support
Topic: Thinking Outside the Box but Living Inside the Box
Replies: 2
Views: 74

Re: Thinking Outside the Box but Living Inside the Box

Good thoughts Curt. I shall think on them for a bit.
by Roy
17 May 2018, 16:17
Forum: Support
Topic: The whens, wheres, and whys of speaking up at church
Replies: 15
Views: 325

Re: The whens, wheres, and whys of speaking up at church

I try to limit my comments in the class setting to advocating for more charity and less judgment for all. I do get the feeling that my comments are not always appreciated. Similar to relationships, you can only have so many emotional withdrawals before your comments begin to feel grating. People go...
by Roy
17 May 2018, 14:41
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Happy to find a safe space
Replies: 12
Views: 307

Re: Happy to find a safe space

Second, I am so happy to hear that the church doesn't condone conversion therapy anymore, and I don't know how I missed that announcement, but I just googled it, and it was official in March 2016. So, yay! that is an important step . . . I have heard of bishops recommending it in the last few month...
by Roy
17 May 2018, 10:02
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Revelation
Replies: 21
Views: 1041

Re: Revelation

What if we trusted in our own ability to receive revelation half as much as we trusted his ability to receive revelation? Jesus said to them, "A prophet is not without honor except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home." After the stillbirth of our third child DW withdrew into de...