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by Roy
20 May 2018, 11:31
Forum: Support
Topic: Is it worth it raising daughters in the church?
Replies: 36
Views: 1107

Re: Is it worth it raising daughters in the church?

But it has been my experience that a person can have decision making power without being the one making the money. Right now I choose to stay home with my young children, but my husband and I both very much think of the money he makes as "our money" and we both control it equally. I think a lot dep...
by Roy
20 May 2018, 09:45
Forum: History and Doctrine Discussions
Topic: Scientology - What makes a religion evil, dangerous, or a cult?
Replies: 6
Views: 162

Re: Scientology - What makes a religion evil, dangerous, or a cult?

I do not feel that I know enough about scientology to comment.

I understand that one of the hallmarks of cults is to try to isolate you from non-cult support structures of family and friends.
by Roy
17 May 2018, 16:34
Forum: Support
Topic: Well, there went that plan.
Replies: 9
Views: 223

Re: Well, there went that plan.

I would contact the bishop right away to let him know that you are having panic attacks and are really sorry but just cannot fulfill that calling. If you can do so before it is announced there may be minimal negative consequences. In my home we have a rule never to agree to anything the same day tha...
by Roy
17 May 2018, 16:22
Forum: Support
Topic: Thinking Outside the Box but Living Inside the Box
Replies: 2
Views: 72

Re: Thinking Outside the Box but Living Inside the Box

Good thoughts Curt. I shall think on them for a bit.
by Roy
17 May 2018, 16:17
Forum: Support
Topic: The whens, wheres, and whys of speaking up at church
Replies: 14
Views: 287

Re: The whens, wheres, and whys of speaking up at church

I try to limit my comments in the class setting to advocating for more charity and less judgment for all. I do get the feeling that my comments are not always appreciated. Similar to relationships, you can only have so many emotional withdrawals before your comments begin to feel grating. People go...
by Roy
17 May 2018, 14:41
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Happy to find a safe space
Replies: 12
Views: 291

Re: Happy to find a safe space

Second, I am so happy to hear that the church doesn't condone conversion therapy anymore, and I don't know how I missed that announcement, but I just googled it, and it was official in March 2016. So, yay! that is an important step . . . I have heard of bishops recommending it in the last few month...
by Roy
17 May 2018, 10:02
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Revelation
Replies: 21
Views: 1040

Re: Revelation

What if we trusted in our own ability to receive revelation half as much as we trusted his ability to receive revelation? Jesus said to them, "A prophet is not without honor except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home." After the stillbirth of our third child DW withdrew into de...
by Roy
15 May 2018, 15:12
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Happy to find a safe space
Replies: 12
Views: 291

Re: Happy to find a safe space

The church is set up well for families who are living fully within the expected norms, but it can be a painful place when one no longer fits those norms. The church is a fairly homogenous environment. This can be comforting and bring a sense of belonging and community to those that fit the mold. Un...
by Roy
15 May 2018, 14:46
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Constantly searching
Replies: 9
Views: 208

Re: Constantly searching

John Bytheway is an LDS author and motivational speaker. His speech "What I wish I knew when I was single" was my bible during the dating years. John categorized happiness as Happily married - This is the ideal happily single - I understand that it may be lonely and unfulfilling but there are some a...
by Roy
15 May 2018, 09:44
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Constantly searching
Replies: 9
Views: 208

Re: Constantly searching

A big reason for me joining was because it gave me a sense of community and identity. ...[SNIP]... On top of all that... My relationship with my (ex) SO was slowly falling apart. She was/is also LDS, but far from a TBM. After "losing" both my SO and my testimony, I fell into a depression. It sounds...