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by SilentDawning
20 Apr 2018, 16:04
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Attempting equilibrium
Replies: 6
Views: 126

Re: Attempting equilibrium

I've learned to set boundaries and my own rules on what I am willing to accept, believe, and act upon. This philosophy relies on a number of keystones: 1) I am my own agent. 2) What happens between me and God stays between me and God (I call this my Vegas principal). :shh: 3) I am the judge of my o...
by SilentDawning
20 Apr 2018, 15:49
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Gerontocracy versus Terms?
Replies: 18
Views: 269

Re: Gerontocracy versus Terms?

If the goal is to have a conservative church, gerontocracy is the way to go. A conservative, slow moving church that displaces those who don't fit the rules, by all means. But the best companies figure out the right balance between centralization and decentralization, and bureaucracy versus empower...
by SilentDawning
20 Apr 2018, 06:11
Forum: Support
Topic: New ward, new you?
Replies: 13
Views: 259

Re: New ward, new you?

TL;DR: in a new ward, how do you set boundaries and expectations? Make it about what you are willing to DO in the church. Not about what you believe, not that you are "a bit different", not that you need to protect your testimony. All those things are like tip of the icebergs that signal problems b...
by SilentDawning
19 Apr 2018, 12:37
Forum: Support
Topic: My strategy moving forward
Replies: 3
Views: 99

Re: My strategy moving forward

I like the way you approached it -- you love the church, it does a lot of good, you plan to do the temple thing, but here are your concerns. Not really anti-TBM. I like the idea of taking it slow. No one is in a rush to serve the pants off you in the church, I've learned that, or to meet your needs ...
by SilentDawning
19 Apr 2018, 12:23
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Gerontocracy versus Terms?
Replies: 18
Views: 269

Re: Gerontocracy versus Terms?

I I'm also concerned that the longer we go with an increasingly old gerontocracy, the less relevant we are becoming to those not aged 60+. Where I see this is in the use of technology and teaching. A few years ago they came out with this new youth curriculum. It was presented in our Ward by the Sta...
by SilentDawning
19 Apr 2018, 06:32
Forum: Spiritual Stuff
Topic: Hypothesis: Purely Intellectual Faith Crises aren't crises
Replies: 10
Views: 192

Re: Hypothesis: Purely Intellectual Faith Crises aren't crises

I don't see it as a faith crisis in my case. It was a commitment crisis. I realized a long time ago that I won't ever really know for sure which religion is correct. I relied on spiritual feelings that directed me to the LDS church as a place that I could thrive for a good portion of my life. At lea...
by SilentDawning
19 Apr 2018, 00:38
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Gerontocracy versus Terms?
Replies: 18
Views: 269

Re: Gerontocracy versus Terms?

I also think it's kind of unfair to the person who is sick to have to still carry the burden, even if they aren't functioning. I remember how I felt when I was HPGL and was burnt out. I wanted official release from my situation. I think the person would be relieved if they have terminal cancer or so...
by SilentDawning
18 Apr 2018, 10:36
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Gerontocracy versus Terms?
Replies: 18
Views: 269

Re: Gerontocracy versus Terms?

The one modification that I would hope for is that Q15 members could go into emeritus status when their health declines to the point where they can no longer function productively within the quorum. I was thinking a three year term or something. Not a democratic approach to succession in the presid...
by SilentDawning
18 Apr 2018, 06:38
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Gerontocracy versus Terms?
Replies: 18
Views: 269

Gerontocracy versus Terms?

One thing I consider wearing about our church experience is the fact that change comes so slowly. Even in industry, when I've had bosses with terrible programs or initiatives, they last anywhere from a couple months to a couple years, at which point someone new comes in and cancels it, alters it, or...
by SilentDawning
14 Apr 2018, 10:32
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Was I really like that? Yes.
Replies: 17
Views: 338

Re: Was I really like that? Yes.

The WORST response I have ever had to "coming out" was, "Why don't you just have your name removed from Church records?" And when I explained why, it was used as evidence that deep down I still believed the Church was true. I had a good friend say that to me. I explained the impact on my family, my...