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by SilentDawning
14 Sep 2019, 13:48
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Kirby is the best
Replies: 9
Views: 402

Re: Kirby is the best

I read over the list of "abuses". My feeling was one of being torn in some cases. In others, I was clearly on the side of the member experiencing harsh interaction with church leaders. In some cases, I was wondering what all the fuss was about. The chronological approach was a bit confusing at times...
by SilentDawning
12 Sep 2019, 20:12
Forum: Introductions
Topic: My Intro
Replies: 9
Views: 235

Re: My Intro

Would your wife be willing to simply support you in raising the kids in the church -- and this means attending an hour of meetings or two? she doesn't have to believe, just be there with you? Especially since the kids will probably get no other church and she has no other alternative to provide (app...
by SilentDawning
12 Sep 2019, 15:00
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: You Can't Handle the Truth!
Replies: 5
Views: 210

Re: You Can't Handle the Truth!

I think it's funny that we used to start missionary discussions when I was a missionary with the topic of "Distinguishing Truth from Error", yet we are more than willing to bury unpleasant or inconvenient truth about our history. We claim to be the only True Church, yet we are not willing to embrace...
by SilentDawning
10 Sep 2019, 19:37
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Birthday Celebration
Replies: 9
Views: 282

Re: Birthday Celebration

After you check out of the lDS experience emotionally (I still attend though), things like this don't seem to matter too much. I guess I'm indifferent.
by SilentDawning
31 Aug 2019, 16:04
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Education is a Comandment...
Replies: 13
Views: 839

Re: Education is a Comandment...

Leaders have used the old "This is something the Lord wants you to do" or "I feel inspired you should do...X" so many times I'm numb to it now. It's what I believe that matters. It's easy to just say the Lord wants you to do something to get you to do it. But believing that one statement can hurl yo...
by SilentDawning
21 Aug 2019, 22:29
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Study doctrine and change behavior
Replies: 20
Views: 1339

Re: Study doctrine and change behavior

I think the immersion of the Spirit changes behavior. I hate to compare it to anything else and elevate it above other behaving changing stimuli, but I have seen people make sweeping changes to their lives on the strength of a spiritual experience I enjoyed with them. This was often accompanied with...
by SilentDawning
21 Aug 2019, 11:26
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Just joined after 2 months of lurking
Replies: 8
Views: 1029

Re: Just joined after 2 months of lurking

Welcome -- I think we all feel like round pegs trying to fit into square holes -- those of us who come here. It's a matter of learning to cope, and interact with the church on a different paradigm. You can get to the point where not fitting in isn't a bit deal anymore, where things people say (that ...
by SilentDawning
18 Aug 2019, 16:13
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Education is a Comandment...
Replies: 13
Views: 839

Re: Education is a Comandment...

I am with you on having made sacrifices which didn't pan out. I made a really bad life decision soley due to the church influence, and I live with it regularly. It's made me miserable most of my life. It underscores, again, boundaries, about making your own decisions based on your unique circumstanc...
by SilentDawning
18 Aug 2019, 14:40
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Interesting Development
Replies: 3
Views: 633

Interesting Development

1.5 years ago I wrote an article for an LDS Blog. The topic was participative leadership. It essentially went into how to use a democratic style of leadership to achieve church objectives. I gave rationale, steps, and an example from real life church leaders of the approach in action. This was based...
by SilentDawning
18 Aug 2019, 14:29
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Study doctrine and change behavior
Replies: 20
Views: 1339

Re: Study doctrine and change behavior

As someone who has studied and taught human behavior my whole life, I can't disagree more. To me, that statement is a symptom of the anti-intellectualism that began during Joseph Smith's time. It continues with statements like "the philosophies of men, mingled with scripture", or the BoM statement "...